Is Your Mind An Asshole?

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Hi Love!

How often do you get that sense of deja' vu?

Because I want to type "It's been awhile" and then explain why it literally has been weeks since you have heard from me, knowing I have sent similar emails in the past.

And that's when the “asshole of my mind” shows up saying things like:

  • Be better. Do better.

  • Get it right next time.

  • Be better prepared.

  • You are a failure.

And that's the G rated version.

We are not our thoughts unless we choose to be our thoughts.

I can choose to allow my mind to beat me up and believe that somehow I should have been better and done better, been more prepared in the midst of being so sick, that for weeks I could barely get out of bed without being exhausted, in pain, and feeling like my brain was so broken that English felt like a foreign language

OR

I can choose a different path.

This time I am choosing BOUNDARIES, boundaries for my mind.

I am choosing to be loving, supportive, to listen and to give myself the space to do things differently.

It is no longer acceptable for my mind to talk to me like it has for decades putting me down, lying to me, being mean, critical, and judgmental.

What does it look like to have boundaries for my mind?

1) It means giving myself a fresh start, a clean slate, the benefit of the doubt leaving the judgment and criticism behind. It won't do me any good here. It means being loving and taking care of myself.

2) It's reminding myself to "Do My Best!" and recognizing that sometimes my best is just getting out of bed to let the dog out and other days like today it is not only being productive feeling the flow of things but having a healthy balance between my masculine and feminine energy, between BEing and DOing and rocking it!!

3) Moving forward with strength and confidence by following my calling and in this case sharing that calling with you!

What would it look like if you told you mind to stop being an asshole? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

And that calling to share? Stay tuned until next week.

In love and healing,

Jenn


Failure: The FLIA Way

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​Hi Love,

Failure can be such a rich opportunity for healing and learning some of our powerful, hidden gifts. 

I wanted to share some of the things I did and some of the tools I used as this failure was unfolding then maybe the impact of my failure has a ripple effect. How sweet is that?

This is part 2 of Failure, in case you missed part 1, here it is: I Failed: What I Learned

To give a little history. A couple of months ago I had this calling to move forward with an event I have been thinking about for a few years.

I said “hell yes!” because in that time I have learned to listen to what calls me.

I planned my approach, set some goals and took the leap, the whole time thinking, “This time will be different” while imagining success was in my future. On July 22nd I would be hosting a fabulous, full group event.

On the day of final registration I had 1 person registered.

Of course I realized before that day that things were not unfolding as I imagined.

I consciously chose to not repeat the patterns of the past by taking a BIG idea and making it small and limited! I was following through to completion even though part of me wanted to cancel or make it a private event.

As I continued to follow through on my strategy I got more NO responses for various reasons: vacation, work, budget, commitment to other events, etc.

Yet as I go NO’s from individuals so many new insights, ideas and opportunities showed up.

So what was different this time?

I have been consistent in my own healing, getting to know my shadow, taking care of myself, surrounding myself with a fabulous support team and trusting my intuition and psychic guides.

I launched Safe to SOAR earlier this year, being fully grounded in my inner safe space and been working with FLIA not just in my relationship but in other areas of my life as well.

AND it’s working in beautiful and magical ways!

Tips When Failure Looms: Use The FLIA Way!

  • Fun: How will you celebrate what you are healing, unlearning and learning and the opportunities showing upthei?

  • Loving: Express the anger, frustration, hurt, grief and whatever else is coming up. Get that shit out! Everything looks clearer with that space.

  • Be kind to yourself. Failure can be hard enough on its own.

  • Intentional: Ground into the energy of “I am Safe” every day for at least 7 days. (Available for FREE download in FLIA Moments and Meditations).

  • Adventure: Start a list of opportunities whether it is for the next step or the ultimate goal. Do this every day for a week. And take a leap, include things on the list you never imagined doing. You just might surprise yourself.

And then follow through on what shows up! You have the wisdom within you!

And stay tuned to for one of the opportunities that showed up in this failure- a new podcast that myself and a friend and colleague are starting called “The Uncharted Adventure: Embracing the Unknown with Nat and Dr Jenn”

Want to join Dr Jenn on this adventure? Be ONE in a Million!

Love Y’all!

Dr. Jenn