How often have you come across the phrase “Rules to Live By?” Whether you’ve happened upon a spiritual guru with his “7 Essential Rules for Living Your Best Life,” or an inspirational author touting “10 Rules for Positive Living,” this common expression is found all over the internet and tucked away in every bookstore’s self-help section.

And it’s a nice thought. Having a list of rules to follow can help clarify just about any circumstance, but have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you’re seeking out someone else’s rules?